La la la la la la la la ...I'm not listening!
Kids...cant live with them..cant live without them!
Our house is not your typical house. We are what they refer to as a 'Blended' family. So, we have 'Mum' and 'Dad' and four children..some are 'ours' and some are 'yours'....lol. With four kids (13/11/8/8) life in our home is 'Special'. The two youngest are both boys and both 8...we refer to them as the 'Little Boys'....we often also refer to them as 'The Blessed Little Boys'...we do this as these are the sweetest little men around. Oh, they keep us busy with all their little schemes and such, but you have never met two little boys who are closer than our two youngest. Through all the trials and tribulations, these boys have depended and leaned on each other.....a better set of 'brothers' I have yet to ever see.
The problems really occur between the 'Bickersons'...uh huh...'George and Ethel Bickerson'...try putting an almost 14 year old boy and an 11 year old girl in a room and expect them not bicker...nope, rarely a day goes by without some type of issue. Its tiring and upsetting and just this morning I had a heart to heart with my son. I explained to him that Michelle has been through an awful lot and that he needs to spend some time thinking with his compassion. I could see in his eyes that he 'got' it, but there is just so much more that goes on when you 'Blend' families. A lot of our energy is spent making things 'fair' and helping them feel like they are special as individuals. Sometimes I think that the hardest part for them is to know where they fit in...in the Grand Scheme of things. For mine, they have always been the youngest and the oldest and they still are...for Michelle and Mathew they are now experiencing quite the opposite. A change in the 'lineup' can be disturbing and confusing.
So today, my mission is to hunt for resources on Blending Families. With just a quick peek at the resources available, I can see that we are not the only ones.....that feels better...now, onto the plan of making it feel great!
2 comments:
L.. have you looked up Dr. Kevin Leman? He's excellent.. I love his birthorder book.. and he wrote one specifically for blended families.. here's the link: http://www.lemanbooksandvideos.com/store/index.php?act=viewProd&productId=17
I haven't read this one, but i seriously recommend this author. He's funny, candid.. and he's pretty bang-on with the whole birth order thing. I never thought about what a blended family would do to a youngest/eldest.. who are no longer that. hrrmmm....
Laura, seriously, KUDOS for everything! Sometimes I can't even manage my two little ones...I can only imagine what you guys are going through every day! You seem to be doing a great job of it, though...those kids are so blessed to have you and Morgan in their lives!!!
xoxoxo
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